This cracks me up: once I mention to some body who’s maybe maybe maybe not polyamorous they often say something like, “Wow, don’t you have a very small dating pool that I am poly? Is not it difficult to get relationship lovers?”

NOTE: this can be component 2 of a post where we explore some great benefits of the solamente poly life — mostly concentrating on polyamory in this component. To some extent 1 We address some great benefits of being solamente and solitary.

It is correct that serial (and ostensible, in place of real) monogamy could be the social norm and also the many popular relationship option. Therefore theoretically it is numerically better to find prospective lovers who desire (or at the very least whom claim to desire) a monogamous relationship. Or even to find individuals thinking about strictly no-emotional-connection sex — an option that myself makes me personally cool. And damn little in between.

Into the world that is real good relationships aren’t a numbers game. Additionally, psychological and needs that are physicali.e., love and attraction) have not been one-size-fits-all. Plus, unless you’re a Zen monk, every adult’s life is “complicated.” Consequently, I’ve unearthed that wanting to play combined with norm that is social in which the standard expectation is the fact that you’re either searching for a monogamous partner or otherwise strictly a “player” — drastically limits my choices for having good relationships.

We highly prefer, and profoundly enjoy, linking with individuals considering exactly exactly just what seems right and healthier, and on understanding how our relationship choices and current commitments might be complementary — rather than the way I (or they) think a relationship “should” unfold. In my experience, this is certainly a huge relief; it permits me personally to be much more genuine and contained in almost any relationship.

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